We asked Tonya to share a little about herself and her family, here’s what she shares:
I am 34 and was born in Iowa, but raised in SE Tennessee (Go Big Orange!). I moved here in 1996 with the intention of only staying until my husband at the time got out of the Navy, but then I got divorced and met my current husband which is while I’m still here. We have 4 boys total… Grayson & Garrett are from his first marriage and they are 20 & 18. Our miracle babies, Kellan & Kaeden, are twins and just a few short months shy of turning 2 (insert sad face).
How long have you been babywearing?
I’ve been babywearing since the boys were just a few months old. I always knew I wanted to wear them but wasn’t educated on proper positioning. We had a Chicco and a Baby Bjorn that were quickly replaced with a Storch woven wrap, but I was so intimidated by wrapping that I sold it and went straight to tandem wearing with 2 SSCs [soft structured carriers]. For over a year I’ve only had two carriers, an Infantino Balance that I wore on my back and an Ergo Options for the front. Now that we’ve added a Kinderpack, the Infantino will be either donated or sold, and we have two wraps. I am very excited to get back into wrapping and now that I have such a wonderful group of friends to guide me I know it’ll be so much more fun than the first time around.
What does babywearing help you accomplish?
Wearing is an absolute necessity for me because with twins there are never enough hands to do all that needs to be done and someone always needs you. We also live on the 3rd Floor so getting to and from the car would be impossible if I didn’t wear them. Outside of all that, wearing the boys has brought us even closer and just made life with twins in general much easier. Up until this past month I’ve not had much experience with different carriers. I have friends who have many different types but I’ve just stuck with what works for us. Then I was offered the opportunity to try out a size 7 wrap which I had heard would make tandem wearing in a wrap possible. So last month I stepped out of my comfort zone and asked for help. I am a generally social person but have high anxiety in big crowds with people I don’t know well so it was a big step for me. Now I could go crazy buying all the pretty carriers I like, lol. Our Ergo has really served us well over the past year and our Infantino has held up well. We now have a KP [Kinderpack] which we love and I’m excited to have a couple Natibaby wraps on the way.
As for my biggest babywearing accomplishment; until today I would have just said wearing twins overall was it but today for the first time ever I nursed while wearing…they took turns and waited so patiently (huge deal since they tandem nurse 99% of the time).
Have you had any babywearing struggles?
My biggest struggle with babywearing has been not having the budget to buy all the awesome carriers I wanted. Well, that’s not really a struggle I guess…honestly just being the center of attention while wearing twins is a huge struggle for me. I am usually a wallflower and prefer to be behind the scenes.
What do you want others to know about babywearing?
I want others to know that wearing their babies doesn’t make them become co-dependant or spoil them…in fact it teaches them trust, love, and security with their surroundings.
If you were going on an awesome vacation, what carrier(s) would you take?
If I were on a cruise with the boys we’d be headed to some place warm and tropical and since we’re definitely fantasizing here, lol, I would take our KP and I would buy Starry Night because it is my dream wrap!!
Anything else you’d like to share about babywearing?
All in all babywearing is a no brainer for me. The boys love it, I love it, and I look forward to lots more wearing for hopefully the next year or so depending on how big these little dudes get.
|Tonya is wearing a woven wrap (Natibaby) on her back and a Kinderpack on front.|